I hope you come in awareness. Her past had less to do with either scenario, but her current relationship had plenty to do with it. Perhaps you should actually, you know, read comments on the thread that you are responding to before making assumptions. The more you can talk rationally and openly to her, the better the relationship will be. Am I saying that women that have what would be considered a large number of partners should be shunned? Or control and/or reduce the rejection that women are going to receive ? Sometimes the reason the car had a lot of owners is because its a well made car rather than the cars made these days to only last two years before you have to junk it and buy a new one. You have a handful of female experience and all you do is wonder about her past. Wesley Pipes, calls out Kobe' lol you really took it there. "Promiscuous" is a term that is almost always used when speaking about a woman; it is most often pejorative. For instance, you are judging that other woman for judging other women. Yes there is a higher possibility of STDs but a woman could have only been with 2 men and be infected vs. the woman who had over 30 and is still disease free. https://psychcentral.com/lib/2012/the-myth-of-the-high-rate-of-divorce/all/1/ for college educated women who marry after the age of 25 and have established an independent source of income, the divorce rate is only 20 percent! But when the person they are today is not consistent with the person they once were, why would you choose to give the past more credibility? The key is make him earn it, NO commitment, NO Booty! If she's interested, there's clearly no problems from her end. As far as Im concerned, he is the only man I can get sexually aroused by. My ex-husband of 7 years was very well endowed and my current significant other is very much under-endowed, but the sex is just as enjoyable, if not more so. EXACTLY and guess what: YOU ARE BEING JUDGED for having the wrong amount! Trust anyone that knows me can tell you I dont even like describing women as hoes or whores I just wanted to use that term to make a point. So now u, a faithful man, deal with this truth and your surroundings are people fixated on sex. Back in the day (I mean waaayyyy back lol) it was all about having a virgin. And she is ten times prettier with larger breasts and better complected, better hair, better teeth, more intelligent, etc His wife would feel intimidated and feel she can not compete especially if the other woman dumped him and he had been in love with her. Though neither worked out I had two completely different experiences. I feel like I'm just in her head sometimes lmao. Im dont want the mother of my children, the single person out of all of humanity that I choose to share the rest of my life with to have been used and ridden like the town bike. Wouldnt you want Get urself checked and keep ur pants on before u question her!!! Funny how the women who think number shouldnt matter have all slept with a lot of people. The man is going to think that the woman might not of this fact).But also realize that a marriage strike is on and is going to get bigger. Who you allow inside yourself matters. Regardless of what it was, it shouldnt matter. I confronted her about it and she responded the number was 5. I try to be very understanding and never judge anyone one because of their past. Just go. Nothing has ever been more important than that. Personally I believe that everyone should date whoever they want. It is very refreshing to read something like this. I wont judge a woman based on her sexual history but Im keeping it real 100%, its going to make it VERY hard for me to trust you. Also if we take a spiritual perspective, then let me add that we all live in sin. So I take it that you would have no problem dating a former child rapist? And if he is, so what? That level of promiscuity speaks to a character defect. Instagram. Regardless of what it was, it shouldnt matter. Then apply your own advice to your own life. Also women (and some men) get bored quickly these days. A possible promiscuous woman is a very valid concern for a man potentially wanting her as a girl friend or more. I agree 100%. Hallelujah! Id much rather be with a woman who has been with 10 people, 7 in the course of relationships vs. the girl who has only been with 8 people, but 5 of those were in a single night when she was gangbanged. Its not unusual for women in my age bracket (53) to have had 100 men! People that respect their bodies have healthy relationships, not hookups at the club every other week. Thank you, Lord, for what you have done that we couldnt do for ourselves. No problem. Twitter. Unpaid whores arent worth much.Sluts dont get rings. I dont know. Cheers mate and thanks for reading. Alex, who exactly is the owner of this superior mind that you speak of? Whats the point of man or woman sleeping with so many partners??? So its not a double standard at all. What is more important than the number is why. The naivete surrounding this progressivenotion about the Means mentally you are stronger. So its reasonable to treat number of partners as risk factor it seems. That should not deter you, if anything let it motivate you to just be better and become the best lover she has ever had. So take a second and ask yourself why it matters. made and consequences stem from them. First of all, we human beings need to start doing fuller and more honest self examinations before we point at others. Its fucking difficult to deal with no matter how much you love them. embarrassing. Sleeping with a lot of men, many of whom she may not know well, does make a woman a bad person, but it will certainly make her less desirable in the eyes of many men when they are choosing a mate. Oh, you gave all your goods outwhen I didnt but I should be accepting of that? That doesnt define who you will be.. It is simply saying that the actual number is not what is truly important. In my opinion, it kinda shows what type of person you are and how much respect you have for yourself. know if your lover truly loves you for who you are if they dont know. It is what it is, but the most important part is your STD FREE!!!!! I'm very emotionally rational and I love being a feminine woman, and I know I'll make an excellent wife and mother someday. cant hold it against the woman I love. If instead, we asked, "Would you marry a man who had sex with more than 15 people", the first thought that would pop into my head would be "15? personal advocate now and then intervening for me. What can And know that there will be days your not overwhelmed in thought. last I will say is women can go abt sleeping, its okay if thats What u want My parents argued constantly when I was a child and still do to this day. If nothing else you For example, marriage is beautiful union however,You can get married but,, marriage does not mean you are barred from temptation nor does it mean forever. Anyone with a brain knows that a persons past is a huge reflection of themselves and that past actions can show a lot especially in regards to the human condition. I think Im old enough to understand that and act accordingly. Nobody is talking about women who are prudish or disinterested in sex. So you may want to take a deeper look in trying to understand the problem and how to better approach it. They are hard limits for a reason. Society is emotionally drained because of this ignorant behavior. Normally the good man doesnt have half the number of the slut girl. But as woman I would be ashamed to pass by and guys keep saying that I slept with her, oh and me2.. The West is the last, civilized group that needs to comment many issues that person will have from having sex with so many people. The past is relevant to understanding who the person was and now is. Nobody wants to end up with the town whore who every guy has ridden. Ive read a couple of your blogs, and I think youre a great writer with even greater things to say ! Now if you ask her and she lies about the number, then your point is much more valid in my opinion. We enjoy a lot playing games and remembering her sexual past. Negative because men come in all different shapes and sizes so the wear and tear would never change when sleeping with the same male 100 times. Exactly act like a slut then oh now i want a good man. As you are starting to realize, it isnt worth holding over someones head, especially when it is the woman you love. rates, confused male and female roles, teen pregnancy and unwed mother figures A woman who doesn't want a short, fat, or socially awkward man can just come right out and say it, but a man is often shamed for being truthful about his preferences. OK maybe not free you might need to tell her its OK were all equal ect ect so some effort is involved to get sex. The red pill community has this notion that women are lesser but I haven't seen that too much in the more toned down PUA community. If you really want to develop as a person, consider what it is about you that makes you feel so unhappy with the ideas you've mentioned. It honestly is a question of a womans character. Have you been on cdc.gov lately or follow @cdcstd on twitter? No, my perceptions are no more divorced from reality than yours, or those of anyone else. They are always controlled and can never be trusted at all because they will get around and bang lots of men. This is just Like having a Second hand CAR on whom so many Drivers have been used that Car. Im not saying this is ok, or validating them telling a lie, but this is the reality. So this woman never lied about anything. Most women judge good young men fa they age that aint been in so many relationships with out friendship first. Even just changing the language will give different search results. The girl you date is not concerned about cooking for you. Not to mention her self-esteem would of been shattered. How about judging a woman by her mind, her intelligence and her kindness? A popular theory in psychology from Freud suggests that men want to marry a woman similar or better than their own mothers, same goes for women and their fathers. Now I will excuse most of the ignorant post below as I can appreciate that most of the beliefs that you all have that enraged me are based in religion, the way you were socialized, or etc. Its not about being flawless and perfect. No one said that men cant sleep around in their 20s. Your girlfriend will likely be very reassuring about everything, and you'll feel better after talking things over. I wish I could be OK with it but its a struggle every day and it causes me real emotional pain. Always be ready and willing to check in on how she feels in the relationship, and if she feels she needs or wants something different. The reason is that education and being over age 25 when first married are negatively correlated with divorce. So many women who have waited seem to not be as open minded. Guess what? Whos gonna stick around for that? Usually some sort of collection of all of the good qualities between all of their partners with none of the bad. There is much I could say as to the real reasons why many men, possibly such as yourself, cannot deal with a woman who may have once been promiscuous in her past. I asked her to swear on her deceased grandfathers grave and on our relationship to tell the truth and she swore it was 11. Last I checked, its not easy finding a men to love whom you can then share your love of sex with. My message is simple, life and relationships require truth. That to me just doesnt seem like it is the best way to go about things, but that is my opinion and I will respect yours. Too many people use the fact that this woman has slept with a certain number a men that they personally deem too high as validation to dismiss this woman as a potential mate or a future great wife. But then you are honest with them and now they arent so sure And no, I have not slept with more than 10 women and yes I am 30 yrs old so I swear to you that it can be done. Some of us have led quite successful lives, and have leisure time. You seem to be fairly obsessed yourself, and I seem to be controlling your time and responses today. So If her numbers are that high, tyou would move out of town to avoid her many past lovers? Some men may think that if the subjective number is more than (x) amount she is automatically out of the future picture because he may see in his mind this woman going out all the time getting laid by men she doesnt know and being the typical party girl. There is a strong feeling of anti-social This might sound harsh but we make quite a few harsh jokes towards each other it's jut our sense of humor; when things like this have come up I've made jokes about her being a thot(slang that is mostly synonymous with slut but easier to use in a joking manner and less hurtful) and she's made jokes about her self in that light literally calling herself a thot and as far as I could tell it hasn't hurt her feelings. And, yet, came to this earth and mankind to serve and not to be served. Dont judge. So I completely understand where you are coming from and again I think it is a very good arguement. She is everything you would want a woman to be, and you feel an awesome connection with her. Im tired of men having to settle for a woman that has been around the block.. Im saving myself for my wife It saddens me to see humans sleep with anything.. Men and women are worth more than that Smh -_-. Or whether you were once a stripper. That is all the article is trying to say. You stated How you view intimacy, and love, and sex matters. well what holds more weight, their current view or their past views? What non practical thing are you buying with your maintenance loan first. Lets say the conversation never came up about # of sex partners. She has actually opened a dialogue with me about the fast girls. it. Marriage is a serious commitment intended to last a lifetime. Hint: your feelings about her past experiences aren't about her, but about you and what you imagine you see. However, there can be consequences I feel hurt by the fact that she was promiscuous and so casual. that doesnt mean that they should deny themselves regular sex of a relationship and it doesnt make them sl*ts or *ssh*les but at least there confident and enjoy themselves. To give you all an example I will use myself because I honestly couldnt care less what you think about me. Your notions of beta this and slut that are so divorced from reality where do I begin. What do women do in the meantime? May I pose a question: of the following three women, all the same age (27) and started having sex at the same age (17), who is more sexually experienced? the more different men she has slept with, the more chances she had sex with an extremely endowed man, which would compromise the elasticity of her vagina. Like I said before, we can just agree to disagree on this one. If a woman comes to you and displays all the attributes you look for in a woman. that it is fine to date a slut but I just want some fucking piece of hope cause I don't want to drop this shit as I really like her. There is simply so much that goes along with the number. I say this because the double standard doesnt stem from men not viewing women as equals, it stems more from wanting to control the behavior of women. Just doesnt have the same ring to it. Dont marry & dont give them kids. Just like some stupid girls who always go for the badboys and then later complain how they are mistreated; there are some stupid guys who go for badgirls and then complain about how they got beta-cucked. I feel most people focus on the physical aspect of sex but overlook the mental and emotional aspect which plays an even bigger role in how good the sex can be. Okay so thats what Ive got for you. Men should do the same, but with women it is even That being said , I just wanted to point out that the double standard here has disgusted me for soo long. Women can love sex, yet reserve this for men for whom they have love, or with whom they are in a relationship. So there is a responsibility on both ends. Lil Joe Norman. By your logic she could look at you and say wow what a loser he's only ever had one person interested in him. I met her online, she opened up to me pretty much straight away and has always been very honest with me. If you're honest more than likely you wouldn't. A study Sarah Mikach and Michael Bailey of Northwestern University looked at the correlation between a woman's sexual partners and . So men are letting go this thing that she slept with 30 guys before marriage because this is common. If someone says he has slept with 100 women, who is sleeping around more, the Men or the Women? I'm not sure if she has cheated in the past and while I want to ask that could come off in a really bad way which I want to avoid. Virility still rules. a person who's had a lot of relationships or encounters doesn't make them a cheater especially if they were honest and up front. Probably not, but its still a shock every time I think about it. Its just a choice u made and a chance you took. If they have, you dont know the type of past this woman has had such as entering prostitution when she was young for various reasons, seeking validation from men through sex at a young age (especially if shes been sexually abused or has father issues) or because she has no problem with satisfying her sexual needs which we do have. You need to take a step back and figure out why you hold onto this outdated and unhealthy view of sexuality before you're in any place to be in a relationship, sexual or otherwise. Women are no different than men. i could never date no one thats slept with a lot of people. I can tell you first hand from experience that the man and woman that waits has a love affair that lasts a life time. And I prefer to date her for a while before I sleep with her. Everyone has a right to their opinion and position. You say what happened to encouraging people to do better, but how is continuing the practice of judging people on their past a good thing? You never pay Benz prices for a 1984 Datson, and I dont think u r being objective. Remember that 50 years ago it was men who mostly had the affairs and was generally accepted that wives take it because boys will be boys. Who she once was is not always who she is now. As a GF or a FB, then men dont care what her count is. I find guys who sleep around to be disgusting also, but they aren't of any interest to me because I am a straight male. 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